LOL. If he's at all open to it, a new dad's support group might help--even if he only tries it as a way to vent, and to find people who agree with him.
"Caboose"refers to someone's rear end, like the caboose car on a train. It's specifically the person's back, sitting-upon side. The other is the front side, which is where I implied I want to kick him.
The dad's mother had a Come to Jesus meeting with him, and now he isn't talking to her.
D-U's friend had to get some groceries and asked him to just make sure the baby was ok, since the little darling was sleeping. Well, the baby woke up, the dad called the mom and asked what to do (after two months? Really?) and she suggested that the baby was hungry. So when the mom got home, she asked if he fed the baby, he said that he did. The relationship is of a nature, that she watched the nursery video of the short time she was gone. Nope. You guessed it. He lied about feeding the baby. When she showed him the video, he just left the room and started playing video games.
I don't think this young mom has enough self confidence to see a lawyer for support, and she wants to make the relationship work. I know from experience how excruciatingly hard that is when one person doesn't want to put any effort into the relationship.
So when the mom got home, she asked if he fed the baby, he said that he did. The relationship is of a nature, that she watched the nursery video of the short time she was gone. Nope. You guessed it. He lied about feeding the baby. When she showed him the video, he just left the room and started playing video games.
Sounds like the guy is a psychopath. I don't think he's capable of having a relationship.
This is doubtless giving him more credit than he deserves, but having known a very very roughly similar case, I'd suggest he be checked out for postpartum depression. In some cases it makes fathers act like assholes. Though to be sure, the asshole material was probably already on hand. Still, if she's interested in trying... The case I knew of had an unexpectedly good resolution, and it worked (after a helluva lot of effort). And the child is an adult now.
So when the mom got home, she asked if he fed the baby, he said that he did. The relationship is of a nature, that she watched the nursery video of the short time she was gone. Nope. You guessed it. He lied about feeding the baby. When she showed him the video, he just left the room and started playing video games.
Sounds like the guy is a psychopath. I don't think he's capable of having a relationship.
More importantly that’s dangerous - she needs to either get him out asap, leave asap, or move in a responsible adult family member for the short term.
TICTH delivery drivers who leave large packages at my address which should go next door. I don't have my neighbor's phone number, and I cannot climb the many steps to her front door.
This has been going on for some years. Last spring I taped a note to my front door saying, THIS IS 505, NOT 501. I haven't had any wrong deliveries since then until today. There are two large boxes outside my side porch.
Judging by the name of the shipper, these are expensive items. I will leave them where they are for a few weeks, then get someone to put them in the trash for me. They are too big for me to handle.
I don't think this young mom has enough self confidence to see a lawyer for support, and she wants to make the relationship work. I know from experience how excruciatingly hard that is when one person doesn't want to put any effort into the relationship.
Could she possibly go to a new mom's support group, or a "Mommy and Me" class, or some such?
And sorry you went through what you mentioned, oh mighty jedi!
TICTH delivery drivers who leave large packages at my address which should go next door. I don't have my neighbor's phone number, and I cannot climb the many steps to her front door.
This has been going on for some years. Last spring I taped a note to my front door saying, THIS IS 505, NOT 501. I haven't had any wrong deliveries since then until today. There are two large boxes outside my side porch.
Judging by the name of the shipper, these are expensive items. I will leave them where they are for a few weeks, then get someone to put them in the trash for me. They are too big for me to handle.
If you can get someone to put them in the trash, can you not get them to put them at your neighbour’s door ? It’s not her fault delivery drivers make bad decisions.
If you can get someone to put them in the trash, can you not get them to put them at your neighbour’s door ? It’s not her fault delivery drivers make bad decisions.
It is just a few steps from where the packages have been left to my trash can. It is about a hundred feet from my driveway to the neighbor's front walk.. Her walk is quite long and then there are about twenty steps to the front door.
I don't think my neighbor suffers from this situation; if she did she would complain. I think she notifies the shipper that the packages have not arrived, and they ship duplicates. They never seem to investigate what happened to the original shipment. The shipping company swallows the loss.
...though, these days, delivery drivers often take a pic of where they left the delivery. I'm set to get delivery notices by e-mail, and a verifying pic is attached.
Off the top of my head, I think that big-river company does that, and UPS, and maybe USPS (the US postal service).
...though, these days, delivery drivers often take a pic of where they left the delivery. I'm set to get delivery notices by e-mail, and a verifying pic is attached.
Off the top of my head, I think that big-river company does that, and UPS, and maybe USPS (the US postal service).
If all else fails, send a stroppy letter to the relevant depot copied to their headquarters.
I have no way of knowing what or where the relevant depot is. If I knew any way of notifying the people responsible, I would have done it years ago.
Is there really no branding on the wrapping as to who the item is from or who delivered it? Is there a delivery note - possibly in a plastic pouch?
If there are any of these, then they are likely to include contact details - an address, phone number or web address. If there are none of those, then there should be something that you can Google to find contact details.
Once you have contact details, follow up with a complaint to the contact.
Internet service companies who admit they are wrong but still want to charge you. I had been with the same internet service for 15 years. When they moved I canceled the service because it was not available in my new area. I mailed them back the Modem as per instructed. They admit they received the modem, however they say that I have a second modem, that I am being charged $175.00 for failing to return. I said, " No I had just one why would I want two modems? " Their answer well yes that does not make sense but, we have it recorded that we installed two modems. Then they said if we can not find it in our inventory we are charging you for the missing modem. They also had two different phone numbers for me and I only had one of those numbers. Clearly, they are screwing up somehow but trying to charge me for it.
Aarrgghh. Tell them you'll be delighted to see them in small claims court. Alternately, that you're sure the good people at (local newshounds here) will be delighted to hear all about your experience, and will they mind if you give the reporters their personal contact info? It's the sort of thing I've had to say lo these 30 years on behalf of vulnerable people in our Vietnamese community. IMHO they're just trying it on in the hopes that you're too frightened / conflict averse that you'll just pay up and spare them the hassle of correcting the error--particularly if some low level flunky thinks the error might get him a reprimand.
I ve gotta kinda feeling that @Moo has exhausted all options.And all patience!
I did once have a way of contacting the sender. It was Amazon. I went to their website and found a page for problems/complaints. However,it did not let me state the problem; it asked whether the problem was A,B,C,D,etc. One choice they offered was complaints of packages not arriving. The didn't mention packages being delivered to the wrong address.
I'm convinced that the companies have decided it's cheaper to replace lost packages without making any effort to find out what happened to them
My problem, aside from the fact that getting rid if these unordered items is a nuisance, is that even though it's not my fault, I feel responsible.
Binning them seems wasteful, couldn’t stuff be donated - but I really just don’t get why it is so impossible to have some kind of communication with your neighbour ? A letter perhaps - after all, you know their address - could address it to whom I may concern if you can’t find their name on the parcels.
I'm also concerned whether the present situation puts you in danger of "porch pirates" showing up to relieve you of the misdirected packages. From clips I've seen, they can be pretty brazen.
Granted, that would take the packages off your hands, but also bring desperate or criminal people right up to your home.
The plot thickens: Yesterday afternoon, the internet service company sent me a bill for $276.00. When I called to tell them they first sent it to an incomplete address( thank you post office for figuring it out.) and to tell them I was not paying it. They told me my account number printed on the bill was wrong and they were mailing me a check for $170.00. They do not owe me any money??? However, having now spent three days on the phone with them I am not going to argue with them about how they are overpaying me for whatever. So I just corrected the address and I am waiting for the check in the mail.
Whoever is responsible for the UK government covid site. Every day I have been starting by accessing it to find out how safe , or not, we are round here. How many cases there have been the previous day. I have a spreadsheet and graphs.
Today, there are no operational links. I am bereft.
Whoever is responsible for the UK government covid site. Every day I have been starting by accessing it to find out how safe , or not, we are round here. How many cases there have been the previous day. I have a spreadsheet and graphs.
Today, there are no operational links. I am bereft.
I think there may be some sort of problem in that the Guardian summary (which I think feeds directly off the gov.uk feed) disappeared yesterday afternoon, but is now back. The Grauniad did have a problem a few weeks back - so maybe they now have a workround but the origin site doesn't...
Different computer. A notice about new, additional cookies. I click accept, and all the liinks go nowhere. I go back to the home page, click to reject, and back come the other pages! go back to the first computer. No cookie message. and this time the links work.
And on some of the places I track, cases are up again.
Yeah, according to the Zoe Covid study, cases are back up in this area, again. It tends to give results earlier than the ONS and other surveys from the way it works.
TICTH the bank which holds most of my money. They silently upgraded their site so that I can no longer access any of the ways to pay bills from my account. I now have to telephone them, listen to endless waiting messages and horrid music, and then - when I do get through to a real person - answer umpteen identifying questions, get passed to another person, who asks many of the same questions again , and eventually get them to process the payment.
Then they have the cheek to suggest I should buy a new computer!
Whatever is holing my merino sweaters. It doesn't go for lambswool, or yet cashmere. Just the fine, thin merino. Little holes. Just a couple of stitches. But no evidence of moth, no parents flying around, no larvae, and definitely no frass. Just hole after hole after hole.
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LOL. If he's at all open to it, a new dad's support group might help--even if he only tries it as a way to vent, and to find people who agree with him.
Quite so - may I join the queue?
The dad's mother had a Come to Jesus meeting with him, and now he isn't talking to her.
D-U's friend had to get some groceries and asked him to just make sure the baby was ok, since the little darling was sleeping. Well, the baby woke up, the dad called the mom and asked what to do (after two months? Really?) and she suggested that the baby was hungry. So when the mom got home, she asked if he fed the baby, he said that he did. The relationship is of a nature, that she watched the nursery video of the short time she was gone. Nope. You guessed it. He lied about feeding the baby. When she showed him the video, he just left the room and started playing video games.
I don't think this young mom has enough self confidence to see a lawyer for support, and she wants to make the relationship work. I know from experience how excruciatingly hard that is when one person doesn't want to put any effort into the relationship.
Sounds like the guy is a psychopath. I don't think he's capable of having a relationship.
More importantly that’s dangerous - she needs to either get him out asap, leave asap, or move in a responsible adult family member for the short term.
This has been going on for some years. Last spring I taped a note to my front door saying, THIS IS 505, NOT 501. I haven't had any wrong deliveries since then until today. There are two large boxes outside my side porch.
Judging by the name of the shipper, these are expensive items. I will leave them where they are for a few weeks, then get someone to put them in the trash for me. They are too big for me to handle.
Could she possibly go to a new mom's support group, or a "Mommy and Me" class, or some such?
And sorry you went through what you mentioned, oh mighty jedi!
BTW, a certain villain (known for skipping town) dissed mighty Jedi actress Daisy Ridley (per Yahoo). She adroitly dissed right back. Somewhere, Leia is smiling.
And Daisy Ridley has so much more class and wisdom that that villain!!
If you can get someone to put them in the trash, can you not get them to put them at your neighbour’s door ? It’s not her fault delivery drivers make bad decisions.
FWIW.
It is just a few steps from where the packages have been left to my trash can. It is about a hundred feet from my driveway to the neighbor's front walk.. Her walk is quite long and then there are about twenty steps to the front door.
I don't think my neighbor suffers from this situation; if she did she would complain. I think she notifies the shipper that the packages have not arrived, and they ship duplicates. They never seem to investigate what happened to the original shipment. The shipping company swallows the loss.
She doesn't have a gate. In any case, the problem is that delivery people don't pay that much attention to ,where they leave stuff.
Off the top of my head, I think that big-river company does that, and UPS, and maybe USPS (the US postal service).
Not around here they don't.
I would do that if I had a way of contacting the delivery company. My problem ids that I have no way of contacting anyone.
If the delivery drivers took pictures, my neighbor would realize that her packages are outside the door of my side porch.
I have no way of knowing what or where the relevant depot is. If I knew any way of notifying the people responsible, I would have done it years ago.
Is there really no branding on the wrapping as to who the item is from or who delivered it? Is there a delivery note - possibly in a plastic pouch?
If there are any of these, then they are likely to include contact details - an address, phone number or web address. If there are none of those, then there should be something that you can Google to find contact details.
Once you have contact details, follow up with a complaint to the contact.
If the wretched parcels could be drop kicked into the bowels of hell itself that would be ideal?
I did once have a way of contacting the sender. It was Amazon. I went to their website and found a page for problems/complaints. However,it did not let me state the problem; it asked whether the problem was A,B,C,D,etc. One choice they offered was complaints of packages not arriving. The didn't mention packages being delivered to the wrong address.
I'm convinced that the companies have decided it's cheaper to replace lost packages without making any effort to find out what happened to them
My problem, aside from the fact that getting rid if these unordered items is a nuisance, is that even though it's not my fault, I feel responsible.
I'm also concerned whether the present situation puts you in danger of "porch pirates" showing up to relieve you of the misdirected packages. From clips I've seen, they can be pretty brazen.
Granted, that would take the packages off your hands, but also bring desperate or criminal people right up to your home.
Today, there are no operational links. I am bereft.
I think there may be some sort of problem in that the Guardian summary (which I think feeds directly off the gov.uk feed) disappeared yesterday afternoon, but is now back. The Grauniad did have a problem a few weeks back - so maybe they now have a workround but the origin site doesn't...
And on some of the places I track, cases are up again.
The truth perhaps? <paranoid>
Who knew?
Then they have the cheek to suggest I should buy a new computer!
Maybe mice? Sometimes they take very small bites of something.
Discovered it was the washing machine, even in the Hardly Even Proper Washing cycle☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️