ISTM that this whole sorry business serves us all as A Norful Worning!
1. Read before you post;
2. Don't assume you know the gender of any particular Shipmate (we could all be telling massive Pork Pies about ourselves IRL);
3. Keep replies short, and not too prolix. (I was interested to learn the use of the abbreviation tl/dr);
4. Maintain a dignified silence (or make a polite, but dignified, withdrawal) if occasion demands.
Yes, I know - not so much fun for the peanut gallery (to which I myself occasionally repair, if I've run out of Improving and Pious Books to read).....!!
ISTM that this whole sorry business serves us all as A Norful Worning!
...2. Don't assume you know the gender of any particular Shipmate (we could all be telling massive Pork Pies about ourselves IRL);
A number of years ago a Shipmate (no longer sailing with us, I'm afraid) referred to me as "he." Not a big deal with my gender-neutral name -- except she had met me on a visit to Phoenix! (I was even wearing a skirt at the time, since we were on a Mystery Worship expedition.)
2. Don't assume you know the gender of any particular Shipmate (we could all be telling massive Pork Pies about ourselves IRL);
What does your RL gender matter? If you come on here and reveal a particular gender, I'm going to use the appropriate pronouns for you. Whether or not they match the ones that your RL self uses is pretty irrelevant.
Unless, of course, you use that gender to go stomping all over gender-related threads claiming special knowledge as a member of your adopted gender that you do not in fact have, in which case you'd be being a massive dick. But that's no different from someone lying about some other major fact of their knowledge or background, and claiming standing because of it.
Generally speaking, I don't think people are that dickish.
2. Don't assume you know the gender of any particular Shipmate
I recently reeled when a regular poster mentioned something about HIS WIFE! I don't know why, but I had always assumed that that particular poster was female.
If the person simply said ‘my wife,’ they could still be female. Women can have wives too.
Exactly, but the impression this shipmate gave of his/her family life was of a heterosexual marriage with adult children. I just got the wrong end of the stick, and assumed that the poster was the female partner.
If the person simply said ‘my wife,’ they could still be female. Women can have wives too.
Exactly, but the impression this shipmate gave of his/her family life was of a heterosexual marriage with adult children. I just got the wrong end of the stick, and assumed that the poster was the female partner.
Ah, I see. I do the same sometimes, more based on posting style or screen name. Or I imagine someone younger or older than they are, or a different nationality/accent from what they have. I also find I have images of posters in my mind which are sometimes quite unrealistic - I imagine Piglet as an actual piglet, for instance, and RooK as an actual rook, even though of course I know they are human beings!
Well, that's easy to do - but my point still applies.
Anything posted by anybody on these boards, especially if referring to personal details or RL, could be false (or, in current parlance perhaps, Fake News)!
Poor WildHaggis, ISTM, made rather too many assumptions along these lines, hence her fall from grace. I hope that she's learnt from the experience, that her earlier flounce will be temporary, and that she'll return in due time with shorter (and less nagging) posts.
Another assumption ... how do you know that Piglet isn't an actual piglet and RooK isn't a large corvid which subsists on worms and insect larvae which it prises from the ground with its hefty bill?
Probably means that Piglet has been here for a couple of millennia, and in that time you are the first person ever* to grasp the significance of her username!
*at least, this is the first time I've heard it, and I've been here (and there) a while meself.
Just as a reminder, the purpose of this thread is to allow comments on @WildHaggis' complaint and more importantly at this point, allow her to seek clarification. Not spin tangents.
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1. Read before you post;
2. Don't assume you know the gender of any particular Shipmate (we could all be telling massive Pork Pies about ourselves IRL);
3. Keep replies short, and not too prolix. (I was interested to learn the use of the abbreviation tl/dr);
4. Maintain a dignified silence (or make a polite, but dignified, withdrawal) if occasion demands.
Yes, I know - not so much fun for the peanut gallery (to which I myself occasionally repair, if I've run out of Improving and Pious Books to read).....!!
IJ
A number of years ago a Shipmate (no longer sailing with us, I'm afraid) referred to me as "he." Not a big deal with my gender-neutral name -- except she had met me on a visit to Phoenix! (I was even wearing a skirt at the time, since we were on a Mystery Worship expedition.)
What does your RL gender matter? If you come on here and reveal a particular gender, I'm going to use the appropriate pronouns for you. Whether or not they match the ones that your RL self uses is pretty irrelevant.
Unless, of course, you use that gender to go stomping all over gender-related threads claiming special knowledge as a member of your adopted gender that you do not in fact have, in which case you'd be being a massive dick. But that's no different from someone lying about some other major fact of their knowledge or background, and claiming standing because of it.
Generally speaking, I don't think people are that dickish.
Nice one!
IJ
Ah, I see. I do the same sometimes, more based on posting style or screen name. Or I imagine someone younger or older than they are, or a different nationality/accent from what they have. I also find I have images of posters in my mind which are sometimes quite unrealistic - I imagine Piglet as an actual piglet, for instance, and RooK as an actual rook, even though of course I know they are human beings!
Anything posted by anybody on these boards, especially if referring to personal details or RL, could be false (or, in current parlance perhaps, Fake News)!
Poor WildHaggis, ISTM, made rather too many assumptions along these lines, hence her fall from grace. I hope that she's learnt from the experience, that her earlier flounce will be temporary, and that she'll return in due time with shorter (and less nagging) posts.
IJ
RooKs, OTOH.....
As for some of us, our usernames might well give a clue as to who or what we are IRL, but, again, it could all be Porky Pies.
Like Religion generally, I suppose.
IJ
Yes, that is so.
IJ
You would!
What DOES “to/dr” mean?
A better question is whether officers emeritus might willingly receive chocolate ...
(Shouldn’t it be “TL/DNR,” then?)
Thank you!
I'll take that as a compliment.
Probably means that Piglet has been here for a couple of millennia, and in that time you are the first person ever* to grasp the significance of her username!
*at least, this is the first time I've heard it, and I've been here (and there) a while meself.
I really must stop perpetuating this tangent ...
I know, right?! Bet Rook looks normal with those cool black shades the Corinthian sported! Or, were his mirrored?