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Interesting Marriage Proposals

BelisariusBelisarius Admin Emeritus
Historical, Literary, or Made-Up welcome.

Possibly apocryphal, but one of my favorites:

After Mayor Fiorello LaGuardia was widowed for a year, he called his secretary into his office.

"You're fired," he stated.

"But, why?" she stammered.

"Because my wife can't work for me."
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  • Gramps49Gramps49 Shipmate
    I think mine was the quickest. My wife to be and I had only four dates. I had a TDY (Temporary Duty Assignment) to Beale AFB. Wife to be said she would come out to see me. (She lived in St Louis, MO). She came out in July. The night she arrived I took her out to a park on base. It was a warm, quiet night. As we were walking along, I said, "A night like this makes a guy want to propose." She asked if I was serious. I said yes.

    Mrs Gramps and I have been married 49 years.
  • FirenzeFirenze Shipmate, Host Emeritus
    Irish story. A couple have been 'walking out' for a good few years. The woman decides it's time to move things on.
    "People will be saying we're getting married".
    "Ach away on, sure who'd have us?"
  • HarryCHHarryCH Shipmate
    I especially love the proposal in "Gaudy Night", which is at Oxford and in Latin:

    Peter asks: "Placetne, magistra?" (Does it please you, mistress/teacher?)
    Harriet replies: "Placet." (It pleases.)

    This is actually a sort of echo of a ceremony once used at Oxford:

    Adapted from "The Wimsey Annotations": A ritualized vote is taken as to the worthiness of each student to be awarded a degree. First, an official will propose (in Latin) that the graduates be admitted to the relevant degree; a vote is then taken, although, in practice only, one vote will be cast in favor.
  • Not really about a proposal, but I've always liked Samuel Butler's comment on the marriage of the curmudgeonly Carlyles: 'It was very good of God to let Carlyle and Mrs Carlyle marry, thereby making only two people miserable and not four'.
  • March Hare wrote: »
    Not really about a proposal, but I've always liked Samuel Butler's comment on the marriage of the curmudgeonly Carlyles: 'It was very good of God to let Carlyle and Mrs Carlyle marry, thereby making only two people miserable and not four'.

    Nice! It could also be said of some couples we know!
  • BelisariusBelisarius Admin Emeritus
    Edward Causabon's written proposal to Dorothea Brooke in Middlemarch is arguably worse than Mr. Collins's, though Dorothea is naive and idealistic enough to be overjoyed by it.
    https://www.gutenberg.org/cache/epub/145/pg145-images.html#chap05
  • HedgehogHedgehog Shipmate
    I was listening to a disc of old-time radio shows the other day. One of the shows was a game show and the host was interviewing the male contestant. The host asked how the contestant proposed to his wife. Answer: "I didn't, really." Host, taken aback, asks laughingly: "So she proposed to you?" Answer: "No, not really." Host, very confused: "So neither of you proposed?" Answer: "No, we just both felt like we belonged together."

  • North East QuineNorth East Quine Purgatory Host
    Neither of us proposed. We were at the wedding of friends, were chatting about marriage in general terms, and at some point the conversation drifted into talking about us getting married.

    We had been dating 18 months by that point, were both young Christians, and at no point were either of us interested in casual dating. So it was just a natural progression.
  • BelisariusBelisarius Admin Emeritus
    edited October 13
    [Cross-Post]

    To be honest, I'm slightly confused myself--I guess instead of "Will you marry me?", it was "When do you want to get married?".
  • Mr Lamb and I were much worse--at some point he simply slid into saying in casual conversation, "After we get married, we should..."
  • BelisariusBelisarius Admin Emeritus
    edited October 13
    Heh.
    Firenze wrote: »
    Irish story. A couple have been 'walking out' for a good few years. The woman decides it's time to move things on.
    "People will be saying we're getting married".
    "Ach away on, sure who'd have us?"

    Punchline aside, at least she now knew how things stood and could take it from there.
  • MarthaMartha Shipmate
    In the book, The Trapp Family Singers, which was adapted into The Sound of Music, Maria has set her heart on being a nun. When the Captain asks her to marry him, she asks to go back to the convent to find out the will of God. Her mother superior tells her she needs to marry and be a good mother to the children.

    She comes back to the Von Trapp house, falls into the Captain's arms in floods of tears, and sobs, "They... they say I have to marry you!"

    Now why didn't they use that in the film? Far more interesting than standard Hollywood romance.
  • Yes, we too didn't really have any "proper" proposal. However we were on a day trip to Oban and decided en route that we would mark our commitment by dispensing with our sandwiches and going to a cafe for a cooked meal (haggis, which we both like).
  • Not sure how we managed to get engaged without a proposal, but we did. I did tell him later that he ought to ask before we arranged the wedding, but it was a fairly perfunctory request on his part.

    Hedghog's old-time radio show anecdote made me think of Wilfred Pickles' 'Have a Go' show. Hadn't thought about that for years!
  • Yeah, ours went that way too. Because when we sat my parents down to inform them, they asked about the proposal--and when they discovered to their horror that there had been none, my stepfather promptly hurled a pillow onto the floor and insisted on Mr. Lamb kneeling on it and doing it "right" then and there!
  • HarryCH wrote: »
    I especially love the proposal in "Gaudy Night", which is at Oxford and in Latin:

    Peter asks: "Placetne, magistra?" (Does it please you, mistress/teacher?)
    Harriet replies: "Placet." (It pleases.)

    This is actually a sort of echo of a ceremony once used at Oxford:

    Adapted from "The Wimsey Annotations": A ritualized vote is taken as to the worthiness of each student to be awarded a degree. First, an official will propose (in Latin) that the graduates be admitted to the relevant degree; a vote is then taken, although, in practice only, one vote will be cast in favor.

    The "ceremony" is still current. The senior proctor presenting candidates for degrees still asks the assembled Congregation "placetne?" In practice, the ritual pause to allow for an objection is rather short, and having observed no complaint, the proctor proceeds by announcing "placet".
  • I said yes to the proposal, but did add the question, " I have a date with someone Friday night, is it okay if I still go?" It was an old friend from my hometown who I had not seen for sometime and he was here on a business trip. Not an old flame. My soon to be husband said are you still going to marry me? Oh yes I said. Have fun he said.
  • I said yes to the proposal, but did add the question, " I have a date with someone Friday night, is it okay if I still go?" It was an old friend from my hometown who I had not seen for sometime and he was here on a business trip. Not an old flame. My soon to be husband said are you still going to marry me? Oh yes I said. Have fun he said.

    That's really nice :-)
  • Jane RJane R Shipmate
    I was showing my (then) boyfriend round the church my sisters had been baptised in, when he asked 'If we got married, is this the church we'd get married in?'

    I said 'No.' (Pause during which I realised the potential for misunderstanding my reply) '...we live in a different parish now, we'd have to get married there.'
  • I had been ‘going out’ with the future Mrs RR for about three weeks. We were in love. One evening, sitting down together, she, knowing my love of music, put on her hi-fi. I, thinking it would be something quiet and romantic, had already decided this be the time to pop the question. The CD wasn’t quiet and romantic at all. It was of stirring military marches. Very loud. ‘Will you marry me?’ I bellowed over the strains of ‘Colonel Bogie'. Surprised, Mrs RR shouted back, ‘Yes!’
  • The_RivThe_Riv Shipmate
    After dating Mrs. The_Riv for about a year, I organized a game night with friends. We started setting up to play Monopoly. As I was placing the player pieces into the center of the board, I said out loud to her, "You could be the thimble, you could be the shoe, you could be my wife (I had placed her engagement ring among the pieces)... It will be 32 years next May.
  • We had what might be termed a whirlwind romance. After 2 weeks we were on a boat in foul weather and she said she forgave me for dragging her into the English Channel in a Force 8 but she might revise her decision if I couldn't come up with a hot drink in the next 5 minutes. I went below and came up with a mug of coffee and a ring I'd made out of a paperclip - she said 'yes'.
  • BelisariusBelisarius Admin Emeritus
    edited October 15
    Queen Victoria had to propose to Albert; as the younger son of a minor Duke, he couldn't presume. Victoria went on to be the only married woman in England to own property in her own right.

    Edit: Until 1870.
  • While we were dating, Ms. Tamen and I had occasional conversations about the possibility of marriage, and at least one those conversations included her saying she didn’t think she was quite ready yet. There was an implied “when we get married,” but the “when” wasn’t yet.

    We’d been dating around 10 months and were driving on a dark, rural road, coming home from some event, and I brought the subject up, reminding her that some months ago she’d said she wasn’t quite ready yet. I said I wondered how she was feeling now. “I ready,” she said.

    “Okay,” I said, and I kept driving.

    That earned me a punch on the arm—mostly playful. “Well, you wouldn’t want me to ask you when I can’t even look at you, would you?,” I asked. That may have gotten me another punch.

    I asked her two or three weeks later, on the day before Easter, while we were hiking in one of her favorite spots. We told her family the next day at Easter dinner.

    Today marks 38 years that we’ve been married. She deserves many medals.


  • There are some lovely stories here, PTL!
  • GwaiGwai Epiphanies Host
    Happy anniversary, Nick! (I bet that's not the last time you got playfully punched.)

    Also, I'm a little comforted by the people on here who got engaged so quickly. We started dating October of one year and announced our engagement in January when we saw his family. Everyone thought we were too fast, but 20+ years later, I guess it worked out okay. (No proposal here either, just a discussion.)
  • Nick TamenNick Tamen Shipmate
    edited October 16
    Gwai wrote: »
    Happy anniversary, Nick! (I bet that's not the last time you got playfully punched.)
    Thanks!

    And not by a long shot! I got a punch in the arm just a few days ago.


  • jedijudyjedijudy Heaven Host
    Happy anniversary to you and your wife, @Nick Tamen! It seems you two got married the day my son turned 10!
  • Happy Birthday to your son, @jedijudy!


  • DiomedesDiomedes Shipmate
    I'm glad there are other folk with experiences like ours! We met in September, announced that we'd 'probably get married' a few months later at Christmas. Bought our first house about a year after we'd first met and had our wedding just before our second Christmas together. Golden Wedding Anniversary this year!
  • FirenzeFirenze Shipmate, Host Emeritus
    Another Irish story. Man is coming from church with his lady love. He stops by the graveyard, nods to the nearest headstones and asks 'Mary Ann, how would you like to lie in our ground?'
  • Tree BeeTree Bee Shipmate
    We lived in a shared house for librarians. Once I’d disentangled myself from my previous relationship we started ‘going out’ in October-ish. After a discussion, no romantic proposal, we got engaged in the February and married the following October. In 2 weeks time we celebrate our golden wedding.
  • BroJamesBroJames Purgatory Host
    Gwai wrote: »
    Happy anniversary, Nick! (I bet that's not the last time you got playfully punched.)

    Also, I'm a little comforted by the people on here who got engaged so quickly. We started dating October of one year and announced our engagement in January when we saw his family. Everyone thought we were too fast, but 20+ years later, I guess it worked out okay. (No proposal here either, just a discussion.)
    We first met at the end of September. We began to be an item, sort of, at the end of the following February, and our first ‘date’ was in the second week of March. We were then apart for the Easter vacation.

    Shortly before the summer term began we went for a walk in which I proposed. That was mid-April. I got my answer at the end of the month. We caused something of a stir as a number of our contemporaries at college had no idea we were even going out. Also we hadn’t really met each others parents.

    That was all three and a half decades ago.
  • North East QuineNorth East Quine Purgatory Host
    Having agreed to get married via a discussion, rather than a proposal, we chose the ring and became officially engaged on my husband's birthday in mid December.

    At work the next day I discovered there had been an office sweepstakes running as to whether we would get engaged at Christmas or New Year, and our mid December announcement spoiled the fun!
  • Jane RJane R Shipmate
    Hah. When we announced our engagement to our friends, they were decidedly underwhelmed. 'But we thought you already were!'
  • NenyaNenya All Saints Host, Ecclesiantics & MW Host
    I was always rather taken with the way Almanzo Wilder proposed to Laura Ingalls in "These Happy Golden Years" when they were "driving out together" every Sunday and one evening he took her hand, said how small it was and asked if she'd like an engagement ring. She replied that it would depend on who offered it to her and he asked if he were to, and she responded that in that case it would depend on the ring. He brought a ring with him when he came to collect her the following week and she liked it and kept it on her finger.

    The evening that Mr Nen planned to propose to me went a bit pear-shaped as he took me to a restaurant where, it transpired, he'd taken a previous girlfriend. I thought that was tactless of him, and said so. On the way back to where I was staying we stopped at the top of a hill; it was dark, cold and windy and he said, "I want to ask you to marry me" and I (still feeling slightly peeved) said, "Do it, then" so he went down on one knee. I did say yes, and we've been married for 40 years.
  • EnochEnoch Shipmate
    Firenze wrote: »
    Another Irish story. Man is coming from church with his lady love. He stops by the graveyard, nods to the nearest headstones and asks 'Mary Ann, how would you like to lie in our ground?'
    Something similar. A friend of mine told me many years that his father had proposed to his mother with the words, 'How would you feel about having my surname on your tombstone?'

  • HarryCHHarryCH Shipmate
    I don't understand that. If she is a member of the parish, wouldn't she eventually lie in that ground?
  • This isn't quite about the proposal, but related. My rat of a future husband used a weird strategy to get close to me in university that backfired later. Informed that I was not dating anyone for a year (long story involving very immature and dramatic ex), Mr Lamb decided that he would instead "adopt" me as his little sister. Which by Vietnamese rules, gave him a perfect rite to hassle me into learning how to drive, etc. (and gave him access to my company for a year or two.)

    During that time, he told a couple of people (in jest) that he was my older brother, and even made up a ridiculous story about my mother having had two husbands to explain why we looked so different. I don't think he expected to be believed.

    Well, we graduated, married, and went off to seminary--where we ran into one of those people he'd told that freaky story to. When he said, "This is my wife," her eyes got SO BIG. It took a long time for him to convince her that in fact, he had not married his biological sister. I would like to think he learned something from that mess, but I rather doubt it.
  • Surely that was obvious!
  • Jane RJane R Shipmate
    @HarryCH in some churchyards certain areas were set aside for family plots. It's not so common now, but it is still possible to buy a double plot in graveyards for married couples.
  • PigletPiglet All Saints Host, Circus Host
    We were ambling along the street in Kirkwall about four years into our courtship, and David drew me to a jeweller's shop, pointed to a ring in the window and said "do you like that one?"

    We got engaged the next day (Easter Sunday 1987) and just watched as people found out.

    Somebody asked me if we were going to put a notice in the local paper, and I said, "good heavens no - by Thursday everybody'll know!"

    I wasn't far wrong. :heart:

  • Alan29Alan29 Shipmate
    When the author Iain Banks was diagnosed with terminal cancer he asked his long term girlfriend if she would do him the honour of becoming his widow.
    Our road to marriage was much faster. We met in January at work, we became a couple in March, I proposed in May and we married in October. 48 years later and I think she's a "keeper."
  • We have a couple in church who have recently celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary. (Mind you, folk tended to marry younger in the past).
  • We have a couple in church who have recently celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary. (Mind you, folk tended to marry younger in the past).

    How?
  • Well, she has just celebrated her 90th birthday, not sure about his age but it's similar.
  • I’m not sure we will make our 65th anniversary (health issues) but we married at 21 and have now been married 47 years. If we both live another 18 years we will be 89 which isn’t exceptional nowadays.
  • Lamb ChoppedLamb Chopped Shipmate
    edited October 19
    Yes, my grandparents saw their 70th, I believe.
  • HarryCHHarryCH Shipmate
    Jane R: I was aware of that. The question here is what "our" refers to.
  • HarryCH wrote: »
    Jane R: I was aware of that. The question here is what "our" refers to.

    I was reading that one as asking her if she would like to be buried in the bit of the churchyard set aside for his family. So 'our' refers to his family's burial plot (aka ground).
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